Or else they’re in relationships but feel constantly fatigued and overwhelmed.The reason isn’t simply that “there aren’t enough emotionally available people ‘out there,’” nor is their burnout “neurotic.” Personally and professionally, I’ve discovered that something more is going on. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes.
Yet, many people often feel more secluded in serious relationships, as time and change can put pressure on your bond and lead you to feel distant from your partner.
People become lonely in relationships for many different reasons but most often, it has to do with feeling disconnected from their partner.
Loneliness is the feeling we get in our heart and soul when we want to be connected with someone, and someone is not available to connect with.
This can certainly occur when we are alone, but it also occurs in relationships when one or both partners are unavailable for connection -- due to being angry, withdrawn, tired or ill. The empty feeling within of aloneness comes from various forms of self-abandonment, such as not attending to our feelings, judging ourselves, turning to various addictions to avoid our painful feelings, or making someone else responsible for our feelings.
About 18 million Americans suffer from depression and another 20 million worldwide use dating websites each month, according to Online Dating Magazine.
Chances are, there are people who will be in both groups.
If we are loving and valuing ourselves, then we can thoroughly enjoy our solitude, and also connect with others when others are open to connection. Anything you do or your partner does that disconnects you from yourself and/or your partner may create loneliness.
Loneliness goes away when we connect with each other from our hearts.
Or else, they feel engulfed when coupled, a nerve-wracking, constrictive way to live.
If this isn’t understood, empaths can stay perpetually lonely; we want companionship, but, paradoxically, it doesn’t feel safe.
These 10 simple tips can help make dating a bit easier. With greater awareness about depression, the stigma of mental illness has diminished somewhat.