Americans are already what racial purists have long feared: a people characterized by a great deal of racial admixture, or what many in the past referred to distastefully as "mongrelization." In pigmentation, width of noses, breadth of lips, texture of hair, and other telltale signs, the faces and bodies of millions of Americans bear witness to interracial sexual encounters. These different kinds of interracial intimacy and sexual depredation all reached their peak in the United States during the age of slavery, and following the Civil War they decreased markedly.
Others contained elements of both choice and coercion.
But make no mistake about it: This is the result of a certain kind of white privilege, not a lack of women of color interested in dating white men or making their love lives public.
So while it should certainly make headlines that Lindsay is Black, her racial preferences — or lack thereof — on the other hand, should not.
They pull out the Orange Is The New Black "chocolate and vanilla swirl" reference.
I'm down with the swirl too.' From black guys: 'Why are you going out with that white boy?
After chatting on OKCupid for a week or so, we’ve decided to meet up at a bar and see if our real-life banter can match the witty potency of its digital equivalent. (And all this time I thought I did that in high school to look like Lando Calrissian … I grew up around black women who straightened their hair. I remember the way they used to bond while performing this ritual before going out to catch a long-forgotten R&B act play in a part of the city not even the gentrifiers would dare explore.
Or the way my little sister would perch on the couch watching while my mother stood behind her with a flatiron, getting her ready for Thanksgiving supper.
This did not stop one publication from running a story that low-key lauded Lindsay for her choice to associate with white men, mainly because it counters data that revealed Black women are less likely to date outside of their race.
The headline began, “Unlike New Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay, Black Women…” Twitter immediately commenced dragging the story, accusing the publication of feeding into stereotypes about Black women.
Black men like Nate Parker and John Ridley have publicly accused Black women of being closed-minded or sabotaging them in a spiteful display of intolerance because the men date non-Black women.
And a white-dominated American society, which sees itself as way more woke than it actually is, can’t understand why Black women aren’t reflecting the same acceptance of interracial relationships as the rest of America (even though the country just came around to it less than 60 years ago).
My husband was about to leave for the store and he gave me a kiss and said he loved me, and after he left, my sister said, 'Dang ... ' My response to her was, 'Jerks come in all colors - I just have a great husband!